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Strategies for Divorce Success

When you are served with divorce papers – or if you are the one filing for divorce — it is common to feel overwhelmed, confused, upset, and completely unsure of what to do first. But by taking a few key steps, and implementing some strategies for divorce success, you can work towards the best possible outcome in your situation.

Be realistic: divorce can be challenging

Understand at the outset that divorce can be challenging. Accept that there are times when you will feel both angry and sad. Recognize that this is part of the process.

Educate yourself

Be informed of the divorce process in Tennessee. Find answers to any questions you have regarding the grounds for divorce, property division, division of debts, child custody and support issues, or other issues in your case. There are fewer surprises when you understand the rules.

Prioritize your goals

What is your priority? Is it custody of the kids? Keeping the house? Divorce requires a level of negotiation and compromise; know what it is that is most important to you in the end. Openly discuss your concerns, needs, and what outcome you are striving for with your divorce attorney so that they may successfully advocate on your behalf to serve your interests.

Divorce doesn’t have a “winner”

Television shows often depict divorce as a legal battle, with both sides striving for victory. But divorce does not have a “winner”. Understanding your priorities and working towards resolving the conflicts that need to be addressed along the way to try to reach your desired outcome, will help to keep you focused and on track throughout the divorce process.

Social media is not your friend

When it comes to divorce, using social media to vent your anger, make accusations, or pour out your heart is a bad idea. Anything you share or post online can be used as part of your divorce proceeding. Photos of you partying may be looked upon unfavorably in child custody determinations; announcing a new car purchase won’t work well in discussions of alimony. So it may be best to take a break from social media during your divorce process.

Take a break

Divorce is emotional, it may be stressful, and it can be downright exhausting. Take time to recharge your batteries and take a break from the divorce to-do list when you can. Healthy behaviors such as eating well, exercising, and sleeping well will help keep you stronger during the process. Listen to your needs – you may want to be alone for some quiet reflection, or you may want the company of a close friend. If you are struggling, seek the counsel of a medical professional or qualified mental health counselor, and discuss your situation with your divorce attorney.

Skilled Franklin divorce attorney works toward developing winning divorce strategies

If you are facing divorce, trust an attorney with more than 30 years experience. I am Judy A. Oxford, a Franklin Tennessee divorce lawyer and I work to develop a strategy to try to secure the best possible outcome in your divorce. I handle each divorce case personally, working closely with you every step of the way and advocating on your behalf. If you have questions regarding divorce, schedule a confidential consultation with me by calling 615-791-8511 or contact me online.